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Date: 15th October 2010, from 9am to 4pm
Cost: £25
This is a nominal amount which should just cover room hire, course material, refreshments/lunch and any other expenses from the day. Any money which is left over after all expenses are met will go to fund the ongoing work of The Splash Project.
Who Should Attend?
This study day is aimed at anyone who deals with bereaved individuals and families in a professional, voluntary or pastoral capacity. If you are not sure whether or not this may be an appropriate day for you to attend, please contact training@thesplashproject.org to discuss the subjects which will be covered, and see if it will be appropriate for you.
We are still working on the programme, and we will be looking to try and make it as appropriate as possible for those people who will be attending.
Themes to be covered
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Types of loss, and differing needs following loss
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Sharing Bad News, and communication breakdown
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Good Practice Points and Local Protocols
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Withdrawing/Witholding Care
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Helping to make and maintain memories
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Spiritual Aspects of Care
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Pregnancy and Parenting after a loss
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Advice, support and help available locally and nationally
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Medical Issues for non medics
There will be a combination of talks, and small group workshops during the day, and the opportunity to meet and discuss with local support organisations.
If there are any issues you would like to see covered as a part of the programme, please email training@thesplashproject.org and inform us. If we can incorporate your needs we would be pleased to do so.
Speakers
Our line-up of speakers is to be confirmed. Details will be posted here once confirmed.
Stands
We will be inviting a number of local and national organisations to have a stand at the venue. You will be able to meet with them during breaks and discuss the work of the organisation and collect information. Details will be posted here once confirmed.
Venue
The Centenary Centre is located behind Centenary Methodist Church in Camborne. (The big Pink one, next to Tescos in the centre of Camborne). The centre will be signposted on the chapel railings.
The centre is fully accessible for disabled users
The postcode, if you have a sat nav, is TR14 8DP
Registration
Please click onto the 'Study Day leaflet' link at the bottom of the menu on the left to obtain the registration form. This can be posted, or sent by hospital internal mail, to the address on the form, with a cheque for the full fee. You can email to register an interest, but without receipt of a registration form and payment, your place cannot be guaranteed.
Once your form is received, you will receive an email to confirm your place.
Places will be allocated as registration form and booking fee is received, and should demand for places be greater than those available, we will institute a waiting list. Your cheque will not be cashed, unless your place is confirmed.
When the workshop titles have been finalised, all those who have been allocated a place will be invited to express a preference for which workshops they wish to attend. These will be limited in terms of numbers, and allocated on a first come, first served basis.
Data Protection - any details on the registration form will be processed electronically, and a record kept until after the study day, to ensure that you will receive any relevent/recent details about the day.
After the day, your details will be held on a data base, so that if further study days are planned, you can be contacted and informed. If you wish your details to be removed after the study day, please email training@thesplashproject.org to inform us. Under no circumstances, will your details be used for anything, other than to inform you of any further study days which may be planned
Cancellation Policy
If you have a confirmed place, and find yourself unable to attend the day, but can find someone else to take your place, please email training@thesplashproject.org with the exchange of name. There will be no charge for this.
If you have a confirmed place, and find yourself unable to attend, and you are unable to find someone else to take your place, your total fee can be returned up to 1st September. After this date, a £10 cancellation/administration fee will be deducted from any refund issued. After October 8th we are afraid that no refund can be given
Organisers
This Study Day is organised by Sarah Ashley and Karen Stoyles
Sarah is a GP in Camborne, with particular interest in management of bereavement in pregnancy loss and perinatal bereavement. She is a founder member of The Splash Project, a local organisation supporting bereaved individuals and families who have experienced pregnancy loss and perinatal bereavement.
Karen is the ward manager of the Day Assessment Unit, and the Antenatal Ward at the Royal Cornwall Hospital, Treliske. She has been instrumental in setting up the Perinatal Mortality Guidelines, which are used up to the current time, to ensure that the standards of care for all bereaved families are maintained as high as possible. She is also responsible for all ongoing bereavement training within the Maternity Unit.
Accreditation
All attendees will be issued with a certificate of attendance, which will confirm 5 hours of Continuing Professional Development
For Further Information
Any further updates about the study day will be posted here.
Why is it called 'Getting into Their Bucket'?
During the preparation of the day, we came across this passage, written by a very wise man called Doug Manning. It comes from a book he wrote called The Power of Presence. It so expressed what we should be doing as carers for people who have experienced a bereavement, that we decided it would make a thought provoking title for the day.
We are very grateful to Doug for his kind permission to use the 'Bucket' Analogy, and invite you to visit www.insightbooks.com for further information
‘Getting Into Your Bucket’
Imagine you are holding a bucket. The size and colour doesn't matter. The bucket represents the feelings bottled up inside of you when you are grieving. What's in your bucket? Fear? Pain? Sorrow? Anger? Loneliness?
Now picture someone, like me, approaching you and your bucket. I also have a bucket. Mine is full of explanations. I am armed and ready to explain why your loved one had to die, how they are now better off and how you should feel. I am well equipped with new ways to look at your loss. I have a bucketful of comforting words and encouraging sayings.
So we face each other armed with full buckets. The problem is I don’t want to get into your bucket. Yours is scary. If I get in there, you might start crying and I may not be able to make you stop. You might ask me something I cannot answer. There is too much intimacy in your bucket. I want to stand at a safe distance and pour what is in my bucket into yours. I want the things in my bucket to wash over your pain like some magic salve to take away your pain and dry your tears. I have this vision of my words being like cool water to a dry tongue, soothing and curing as it flows.
But your bucket is full. There is no room for anything that is in my bucket. Your needs are calling so loudly there is no way you could hear anything I say. Your pain is far too intense to be cooled by any verbal salve, no matter how profound.
The only way I can help you is to get into your bucket, to try to feel your pain, to accept your feelings as they are and make every effort to understand. I cannot really know how you feel. I cannot actually understand your pain or how your mind is working under the stress, but I can stand with you through the journey. I can allow you to feel what you feel and learn to be comfortable doing so.
That is called, ‘Getting into your bucket.’
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